Considering I'm quite late writing this blog, I'll try to keep it short. Probably that goal isn't going to work since I don't do short but at least I'll try to finish writing it today, giving me 40 more minutes to manufacture something good with my hands on this keyboard, or at least something readable. As I completely lost track of time today (not really but for goodness sake let's just call it that), I didn't think of a word I'd like to talk about today. While browsing through the dictionary I firstly wanted to write about fascination and all the different thing I find fascinating, such as fear. But fear is also a word starting with an F so secondly I wanted to talk about fear. Though they were both fine to discuss, I was not in the mood of thinking too much about this all and decided to browse further to a more easy topic, until I saw "forever".
Still thinking about things that fascinate and frighten me, I thought of the human ability to bond with each other. How fragile and funny it is to think about it, as every person in love keeps saying they love forever, while breaking friendships and relationships just as easily again. I didn't understand how this could happen as the word forever itself means for ever. You know, as in not ever ending? Of course -as usual in cases like this one- I was wrong. The first meaning of the word is indeed for all future time, meaning something to never end. But what was standing there behind the most obvious reason and term I thought possible? Another two different explanations, both revealing some kind of logic in all this mess about human relationships. Apparently,forever can just as well mean continually (as in all the time, but not necessarily for all eternity).
Ok, I get it. The fact that "I love you forever" can also mean "I love you all the time" is acceptable. It's not covering as much as I would have hoped to hear being meant while someone says it but at least the feeling is still pretty complete and exclusive or whatever. What I cannot understand though, is the second meaning (for all you know-it-alls, this one above was in fact the third one, I just wanted to write about it first, then discuss what I'm going to discuss now). Forever, one of the few words I thought were the greatest yet most treacherous of all words, has now changed to a word that simply means a very long time. What the hell? Of course I am aware that sometimes this term is used to express a rather long time hyperbolically, I know that and it's fine if people decide to use it like that. But why include a hperbole as a normal term in a dictionary? And what exactly is understood by a very long time? I mean, when I'm having a boring class at school, even a minute seems a very long time to me. Not to exaggerate too much let's say one hour in class is a very long time, this is a fact which most people will find true. Regarding what I just wrote down, if I were to say I love someone forever, I might as well be saying "Hey, I think you're nice and all. Heck, I'll even say I love you but you must know that it's only for about an hour because that already seems like a very long time to me".
It's just not right, how on earth should I be able to truly believe someone saying they would love me forever, or that they would forever be my friend? It would all be one big lie, or in fact that's exactly what it wouldn't be since the very meaning of the word only implies that they will be there for a long time. No wonder so many relationships end the way they do. People just expect themselves and each other to love unconditionally and for all future time, while only one third of the definition would imply that thought. Given the statistics of what the dictionary tells me, one third of all couples will love and never stop loving. An other third of all couples will love each other but only for a reasonably long time and then split up (hence the divorces). The last third of all couples will love each other continually and all the time for the time being but sooner or later just stop loving and break up (hence the split-ups before even getting married or anything of that matter). These statistics don't exactly respond to the normal circumstances but my theory is, that when only looking at the breakups because of not loving each other (any more), this might actually be true.
And yet another one of my ideals crumbled and crushed to absolutely nothing. Oh well, let's just hope for the best and keep on living life as we are used to. ;)
Ps. Sweet! I still have two more minutes before it's too late to post this. Can't believe I've actually succeeded in being in time...